Happiness is neither virtue nor pleasure nor this thing nor that but simply growth, We are happy when we are growing. ~William B. Yeats
Any parent will tell you that bedtime can be a daunting task. My husband and I decided it was time to claim back our bed and train our awesome & wonderful son Caleb how to sleep in his crib. We developed a game plan and decided to stick with it no matter what. Our first night was rough we stayed in our son’s room for over an hour trying to get him to sleep. We didn’t pick him up, despite his many tactics of trying to get us to give in. I’ll admit it was difficult not giving in to my son, but I knew we had to let go of our old routine so he could grow comfortable sleeping in his own room. My son’s sleep training experience immediately sparked a thought of the importance of letting go for growth in our personal lives.
Letting go can be a very hard thing to do. We often develop emotional attachments to people, things, & past experiences that can stunt our own personal growth; especially if it in no way nourishes our physical and emotional needs.
The show Hoarders is a great example of what holding on can lead to. It has captured the attention of millions of viewers allowing them to see what happens when a person simply wants to keep things which hold no value. Life experiences can make people become emotional hoarders holding onto all kinds of emotional baggage which constantly weighs them down.
Self-Evaluation Activity: Am I holding onto negative emotions?
Hurt, anger, failure, fear, doubt, insecurity, past experiences, negative relationships, guilt, regret, jealousy, depression, hopelessness, grief, defeat
Steps to Release Negative Emotions
If you are holding onto negative emotions here’s a plan to release them:
- Acknowledge your feelings: Admit that you are holding onto some negative feelings, analyze where they come from and why. No one blames you for feeling the way you do. It’s ok to embrace your emotions, it does not make you weak it makes you human.
- What can you do today to start the healing process: Take small steps to release your negative feelings, discuss them with the people who hurt you, write a note or letter send it or don’t it’s up to you but get it all out!,What was the lesson you learned during the experience that will help you in the future.
- Learn From it & Let it go: After you have acknowledged your feelings, and begin the healing process the time has come for you to let it go day by day. Don’t keep holding onto it, LET IT GO
- Share It: Tell those you trust and confide in them, someone who will not judge you but listen and show compassion about your feelings. You would be surprise how just opening up can help release toxic emotions. Talking out loud also helps place things in perspective and can help you realize something you may have missed.
After almost a week of sleep training Caleb I am proud to say last night I asked him if he was ready to lie down, he grabbed my hand and led me to his room and peacefully went to sleep. Growing pains are a part of the human growth process, however we have to know when and what to let go in order to keep moving forward.
Today’s ReCode Message: ReCode from Emotional Hoarding: to Letting Go for Growth!